Trisomy 13- Patau Syndrome - Considering Selective Termination, Abortion or Early Induction?

Trisomy 13 - Patau Syndrome
Considering Selective Termination, Late-term Abortion or Early Induction?
Information, Resources & Links

Available to you for IMMEDIATE EMAIL & PHONE SUPPORT:

Laurie-Beth RN *82-1-510-744-0512
(CA California) Registered nurse (RN) with specialties in Labor and Delivery and Neonatal Intensive Care. Perinatal Hospice and Palliative Care Coordinator, Certified Grief Counselor.

After experiencing the effects of an abortion with a previous pregnancy, these women share their experiences with carrying to term a child with Patau Syndrome - Trisomy 13:
Elisabeth Slotkin (FL Florida)
Debbie Joslin (AK Alaska)

REGRET STORIES

Women are told their life may be in danger, or they need to end their pregnancy to preserve the women’s life or health. Sadly, Trisomy 13 is used often in writings on Early Induction and Late-term Abortion. These families share the pressures they experienced and how they regret their decision and choice to end the pregnancy:

Cara (NC North Carolina)

Katie (WA Washington)

Debbie Joslin (AK Alaska)

Elisabeth Slotkin (FL Florida

Considering Selective Termination, Late-term Abortion or Early Induction?

Early induction - Preterm induction before fetal lung maturity for any reason other than serious danger to the mother’s life, or in the case of existing natural fetal death.

Late-term Abortion – at or after 24 weeks or into the third trimester

Over the years I've received many emails from women who aborted, terminated or induced early their Trisomy 13 children. They were amazed and completely surprised that their child could have survived, or at least grown to a point where they could reach their mothers arms! These women were given NO HOPE that their child would make it to term. Many were even told that their child’s diagnosis was more severe than the norm and discouraged from researching the disorder for themselves. Without a full understanding of this complex disorder, they felt they had no option but to terminate with all the pressures around them. These women fall into a unique category, those who felt "pressured to interrupt their pregnancy for medical reasons."

These parents have come to the realization that it was not the trisomy 13 that took their child’s life but it was the termination and interruption of the pregnancy that ended their child’s life. A hard place to be, accept and understand, but also the road to their healing and forgiveness.

There is an increased awareness with the unspoken shame and pain of abortion. After the procedure, many women wish they could bring their child back. They wish they could change their decision to terminate or induce early their child’s life. We appreciate the courage these women show in sharing their experiences, allowing others to understand the never ending sadness and pain elective termination or selective & early induction for any reason brings.

Read the stories these women share about the pain and regret they have been left with after taking the advice to terminate after a Trisomy 13. diagnosis.

We each have a unique life journey, often our decisions direct how it moves forward. It is my hope that the many resources we’ve gathered together will help you on this most unique of life experiences and help you to create special memories with your child.

ThereseAnn
Site facilitator & mom to Natalia

RESOURCES & LINKS - GET ALL THE INFORMATION YOU CAN

Carrying to Term or Elective Termination is a personal choice.. Here are some resources and information that will be of support to you before and after. A diagnosis of Trisomy 13 (Patau Syndrome) brings many emotions, choices and decisions. It is important that you be your child’s and your own best advocate. If you are considering termination or interrupting this pregnancy, research the many Pre and Post Abortion Resources. Research what is before you physically and emotionally. Consider reading stories from those who have walked this journey. They will help you find Peace in the many decisions before you.	While this web site has many stories of carrying to term Patau Syndrome, prenatal, living & treasured memory, many of the resources below will offer you stories of those who have terminated their pregnancies. Terminating a Patau Syndrome Trisomy 13 child for medical reasons will bring an end to the pregnancy sooner, however, it will not lesson the grief nor the impact this child will have on your life. Read from those who’ve experienced both sides of this heartbreaking loss. Pain from an abortion and the pain from the loss of their trisomy (Patau Syndrome) child. Debbie and Elisabeth’s Stories.

Be sure to fully inform yourself, get educated and get the appropriate information on the many choices and decisions before you. Google the term “Termination for medical reasons” support boards and groups Read stories of those who made that heartbreaking choice.

Pre Abortion, Termination, or Late Term Elective Procedures,
(Early Induction) Support Resources

Pre or Post Abortion/Termination Books & Resources

Post Abortion, Termination, or Late Term Elective Procedures (Early Induction)

Links to helpful pages on this web site

Prenatal Diagnosis Information & Support
Trisomy 13 Support, Resources & Links
Grief Support Message Boards
Grief Support

Meet our Trisomy 13 Families and their Children
Prenatal Ultrasound page
Children & Adults Living with Trisomy 13
Treasured Memories Trisomy 13 Children

VIDEOS & Presentations

IN THE NEWS

Sunday, May 10, 2009 Article in The Washington Times By Julia Duin Choosing not to abort babies with disabilities A Well Written and MUST READ article with many Resources.

From The Sunday Times November 23, 2008 It was all too easy to lose my son

A Different Kind of Crisis Pregnancy: When There is “Bad News” About Baby Article By Monica Rafie, founder and administrator of BeNotAfraid.Net

Prenatal Partners Second Thoughts Resources, Second Thoughts Stories

Feeling pressure to induce early? Selective induction, termination, abortion. - REAL, CONFIDENTIAL, FREE, NON-JUDGMENTAL HELP TO AVOID ABORTION, FROM MANY PLACES: 3,400 confidential and totally free groups to call and go to in the U.S...1,400 outside the U.S. 98 of these in Canada. Free, financial help given to women and families in need. More help given to women, families. Helping with mortgage payments and more. More help. The $1,950 need has been met! CPCs help women with groceries, clothing, cribs, "safe haven" places. Help for those whose babies have Down Syndrome, Other Birth Defects. $$ Help Adopting the Babies.

Looking Termination/Abortion/Early Induction in the eye - A Priests for Life Website - Images of Fetal Development - GRAPHIC IMAGES OF ABORTION, Pictures of Aborted Babies, & Videos of Abortion

LIFE ON THE LINE- Many of our Trisomy families are encouraged to terminate these babies. Rev. Pavone has posted three videos on You Tube in which he demonstrates the most common abortion procedures, using the actual abortion instruments and fetal models. In one video you see the actual babies being examined by a doctor. We ask you to view and to spread far and wide these challenging videos. The links are as follows: YouTube videos
Dismemberment D&E Procedure
Suction Abortion Procedure
Prostaglandin Abortion Procedure

Partial Birth Abortion (You Tube videos)

Silent No More - Do you regret your abortion? Do you regret your termination? What are the Goals of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign?
Educate the public that abortion is harmful emotionally, physically and spiritually with lasting consequences.

RealChoice (BLOG) - The side of “choice” the American abortion lobby doesn’t want you to see.

Real Choice - Trisomy 13, 18, & Related Disorders - Links to information and support for parents whose child has been diagnosed with Trisomy abnormality

Abortion-Breast Cancer Link (You Tube videos)

Abortion Breast Cancer - Women were never told about their findings. As of 2006, eight medical organizations recognize that abortion raises a woman's risk for breast cancer, independently of the risk of delaying the birth of a first child (a secondary effect that all experts already acknowledge). An additional medical organization, the Association of American Physicians and Surgeons, issued a statement in 2003 calling on doctors to inform patients about a "highly plausible" relationship between abortion and breast cancer.

My Child, My Gift: A Positive Response to Serious Prenatal Diagnosis
by Madeline Pecora Nugent
Due to increasing pressure by the medical and social community to terminate when a disability or lethal condition is diagnosed in utero, parents and relatives are confused and troubled about what to do. Recommended by Monica Rafie of Be Not Afraid

Forbidden Grief The Unspoken Pain of Abortion - It's time to move beyond the politics of abortion.
For more than 30 years, our nation has argued about abortion. In that time, over 30 million women have had one or more abortions.
While the political battle rages, little has been done to address the emotional needs of those who struggle with feelings of grief, shame, guilt, feeling judged by others. Instead, social taboos stifle discussion of abortion-related feelings. Women are left feeling isolated, and their recovery is inhibited.

See other book recommendations

“Newgenics” - Government program that imposes a quality of life judgment - viability

Exclusive: Twenty Years of Eugenic Abortion at Ontario Catholic Hospital Special Report presents hospital policy document approving the procedure By John-Henry Westen

Post Abortion Help - Poor Pre-Natal - A Ray of Hope for Those Suffering Abortion's Aftermath - An invitation to healing from someone who has suffered the loss of a child from abortion due to a poor prenatal diagnosis ~ About Lumina

Concepts of Truth - Hurting from Abortion? 24/7 Confidential Help – Phone support
National Helpline for Abortion Recovery - Men and Women support

After abortion Life after abortion: News, opinion, personal experience, resources.

TERMINATION/ABORTION IMMEDIATE PHONE SUPPORT - Rachels Vineyard Theresa Burke, PhD, Founder, Executive Director has a toll-free number for IMMEDIATE SUPPORT ( 877 HOPE 4 ME ) and has someone answering the phone at all times. Calling them may be a great source of support and comfort for you. They are available NOW RETREAT information Their Healing Retreats are Nationwide and they have a minimal fee, and scholarships $$ for those needing financial assistance. Rachel’s Vineyard - Healing the trauma of Abortion and Termination for medical Reasons This is a wonderful support site and program for those who have had an abortion, and for those who felt pressured to terminate for medical reasons.
Support for men Helpful Resources

Symptoms of Post-Abortion Trauma

After Abortion - By age 45, 1 out of every 2.5 women in the United States has had at least one abortion!* "Politically Neutral", How you feel after an abortion should not be a 'political' or 'religious' issue - if you have a need for support, or emotional or physical problems, they should be treated just like the issues with any other medical procedure.
PASS AWARENESS – PASS Post Abortion Stress Syndrome

“Have you ever noticed that when a women is considering aborting a healthy baby, the doctors assure her that her baby is too young and immature to feel the pain of being stabbed, poisoned, or dismembered --- but if the mother wanted to NOT abort an unhealthy baby, she is told that her baby is in terrible pain and that she must abort to spare him.”

- Christina Dunigan
http://realchoice.blogspot.com/

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